Both sexes see an intimate connection between aggression and control,
but for women aggression in the
failure of self-control, while for
men it is the
imposing of control over others. Women's aggression
emerges from their inability to check the disruptive and frightening
forces of their own anger. For men, it is a legitimate means of
assuming authority over the disruptive and frightening forces in the
world around them.
-- Anne Campbell. Men, Women, and Aggression (Basic
Books, 1993)